The house goes quiet.

Maybe the kids are in bed, or left home long ago.

You said you were done for the day.

And yet your hand reaches for your phone.

AGAIN.

Not because you need anything in particular from it.

You just… reach.

I have found myself doing it, like so many of us, and it pisses me off.

On the podcast this week, Neil said something that stopped me:

It sounds dramatic, but it’s bloody true.

And its one of the biggest problems men face today, that 10 years ago didn't exist.

You might think its no big deal, but it is.

Every scroll is a withdrawal in to yourself and away from the organic world.

Each time you swipe it's attention leaving your body.

Every single fucking time you have a “quick check”... you're losing life you don’t get back.

And here’s the uncomfortable bit that you probably know anyway.

(That’s what makes this hard to admit and face up to).

Admitting you’re wasting time is one thing, because it doesn't seem like much.

But admitting you’re 'leaking your life' is another thing entirely.

So if you've ever found yourself mindlessly scrolling (SO MANY men tell me they do))...

Think of it this way...

The blood’s on your hands.

And why did I pick bedtime as an example?

Discipline is harder at 9:47pm than it is at 8am.

Yes but WHY?

It’s easy to be disciplined in the gym with people around you and you are locked in to the olympic barbell and some deadlifts.

Easy when people are watching in the office, whilst you're at your desk and people are busy doing stuff around you.

Easy when you're sitting at the dinner table with family and there's conversation flowing whilst you stuff another sausage in your pie hole.

It’s harder when no one sees you.

When the house is quiet and the world is slowing down.

When you could read.

OR...

Think.
Plan.
Pray.
Or just sit with your own thoughts and contemplate.

That’s where real discipline lives.

Scrolling at 9:47pm is about avoidance of boredom.

There's a feeling of Psychological Restlessness.

Maybe even a quiet sense that something needs to change in your life that deep down you've been burying.

So I want to leave you with this point:

A disciplined man doesn’t just control his body, he controls his attention.

I'm not saying it's easy, but it's doable.

You decide what enters your mind, and that gives you mental sovereignty (great term).

So remember this next time you pick up your phone.. imagine blood all over it coming from your phone.

And if that makes you feel uncomfortable, then good.

These are the conversations most men avoid.

​Which is exactly why The Network exists.​

Not just to tell you what to do.

But to call out what you need to stop fucking doing.

Episode 144 goes deeper on this.

If it hits… go listen.

Then put the phone down.

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Speak to you on Friday

Anthony